Parents

Just recd this... Thought of sharing...


🔹If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behaviour.
🔹If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you've lost them.
🔹If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.
🔹If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

🔹If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.
🔹If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
🔹If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.
🔹If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehaviour and you give little attention to good behaviour.
🔹If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.
🔹If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
🔹If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through.
🔹If your child is secretive, it is because they don't trust that you won't blow things out of proportion.

🔹If your child talks back to you, it is because they watch you do it to others and think its normal behaviour.
🔹If your child doesn't listen to you but listens to others, it is because you are too quick to make decisions.
🔹If your child rebels it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right or wrong.
Change starts at home. Try a few if not all and see the sea change in the relations. Can you? Jai Hind.

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E-mail Conversation

The Below email is the conversation between two friends who started communication with each other after 2 years of gap and they don't know what had really happened with their lives in this two years of gap.


Read the emails(this blog post) from bottom to understand!!



-----Original Message-----

From: Sneha [mailto: sneha@yahoo.com]

Sent: Monday, July 07, 2008 12:54 PM

To: Ashok

Subject: RE: Resume



Hello Ashok,

It's not the question of apologizing, whereas it is a matter of understanding the resume. And I felt your words were direct and I just made you clear. And I never respond anyone so rudely but when I went through the mail, I felt so. I have regrets for such an attitude.

Thanks and all the best.

With Regards

Sneha

--- On Mon, 7/7/08, Ashok wrote:

From: Ashok

Subject: RE: Resume

To: sneha@yahoo.com

Date: Monday, July 7, 2008, 11:14 AM

My Apologies Ms. Sneha, what I noticed I had just asked you as a friend, if you feel my words are so criticizing then you are wrong as I don't know about your career as what you have been doing as we did not have communication since 2 yrs.

Well anyways you take care and please learn not to respond to emails in such headstrong and rude way as its always not good to the reader.

Well, I think you are so grown up and think you also learned how to help yourself without any friends or anyone.

Take care Sneha and long bye from my end.

Best Regards,

Ashok

P.S: Sorry I have your resume and I have deleted it.

-----Original Message-----

From: Sneha[mailto: sneha@yahoo.com]

Sent: Saturday, July 05, 2008 12:18 PM

To: Ashok

Subject: RE: Resume

Mr Ashok,

Let me tell you that I am also a HR and I am not so fool to send you the resume without updating. I really don't understand and I think I made the mistake by forwarding you the resume thinking that you may do something, but in return, you are humiliating.

With Regards

Sneha

On Fri, 7/4/08, Ashok, wrote:

From: Ashok,

Subject: RE: Resume

To: sneha@yahoo.com

Date: Friday, July 4, 2008, 5:01 PM

Sneha what you have been doing from 07 to till date..I just scanned your resume but there is a career gap? Is the resume is not updated?

Best Regards,

Ashok

-----Original Message-----

From: Sneha [mailto:sneha@yahoo.com]

Sent: Friday, July 04, 2008 4:01 PM

To: Ashok

Subject: Fw: Resume

Hi Ashok,

Please find my resume attached and forward in your company.


With Regards

Sneha

Finding a Life Partner .... Is not a Simple Task .. Takes Time

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER

Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A.

  
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake.. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Perfect Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they ' re getting married, they ' ll say: "We ' re in love"; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. 


Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. 

Though this may sound "not politically correct", there’s a profound truth here. 

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage . 

When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come automatically. Let me say it again: "You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; you need a lot more!!! 

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner. 

QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose? 

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20 or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful thing and for which you need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2) You can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! 

Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing. 

QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person? 

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won’t get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry. 

QUESTION ...3: Is he/she a mensch? 

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ";. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: 

(1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and 
(2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. 

Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle. 

QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people? 

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. 

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed? 

To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don ' t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well. 

QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I ' m hoping to change about this person after we’re married? 

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse" If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself trouble because you didn’t t do your homework. Another perspective... There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It ' s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. 

Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don’t really understand, know, or appreciate you?   

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life. 

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don ' t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults are not really that important. 

Do you bring out the best in each other? 

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control? 

What do you bring to the relationship? 

Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? 

You can’t take someone to the altar to alter them. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay.

 

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS: 

1. TRUST
2.. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY 
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR 
5. SHARING TASKS 
6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE 
10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT. 

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace. 

Does Really Qualification Necessary?

When I was watching television last night, I got this question popped up in my mind as in one of the news channel they are showing IIM - A has set 98.99 %tile as a cut off for the students to get admitted in their institute carried on with other permier institutes cut off's. I was really impressed with the cream those institutes wants and then to train them.

But one point which stings onto my mind is Why dont we have any such cutoff scores or Basic education qualification to get into Politics or to get MLA ticket. Even Indian Government is a Premier institute which does lots of good things to uplift a society or county.

Finally, Are these Premier institutes are training those creamy brains to work for these NON - Creamy and Non - Educational People... is really a question mark to these institutes and those creamy brains altogether!!

Email

Woow a day has come when we can talk, laugh,and have goodtime again.

Without you the days were mum, leaves not rattling, roses not fragrancing & mobile not ringing.

Today when I was passing by a rose garden, a rose has just smiled at me and spread its frangance and told me your friend has come!! Good Morning.

(This is one of my email sent to my best friend when she's away. Today she had sent me the same thing and told this one you sent when I was not there!! ...I can say one of the best email and made me remember my old memories)

Painful Weapons!!!

The most notorious and dangerous weapons what a woman posses is their Beautiful Smile and their Gorgeous Eyes.

By using these two weapons interchangeably she can easily dilute any men’s instinct and divert their attention.

If any Man who can learn as how to Master by not falling into this deadly trap of woman can easily win and create his own World of happiness.

Note: This been written with Authors own experience and observations from many years.

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I Commited a Sin

Dated: 11 / Jan / 2010.

I had commited a Sin today (10/Jan/2010). I had broken my own set Principle and ethics, to which I regretted very much later. And after that I revisted and re - though about it and decided that I will not do again in lifetime. I think I need to have more will power then before. I left this sometime around in August 2010.
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You may be thinking as what is this Sin..... Well........I SMOKED yesterday @ 9.15 PM :: 10/01/10.... Woow the date is to be Noted!!! (One Zero/Zero One/one Zero)